Everyone knows that an unhealthy living habits can really affect our personal and professional life in a way that it prevents us to reach our goals. It’s up to us how we can control these habits.
Why Do We Fail To Break Bad Habits?
It is difficult to make new habits! And even harder when it comes to losing the old ones!!! However, it must be admitted, if you have a goal of any kind, to achieve it, you must change your habits: for example, if you plan to do a marathon, you must provide a weekly or daily training schedule. If you want to enter a prestigious school absolutely, you must study even more. To become an entrepreneur, start your own business: learn, network, sell. Invest in real estate: watch ads, call, visit. Change food or sports habits, the same, whatever the project you initiate, you will change your habits.
It’s So Hard To Lose a “Bad” Habit
Why, is it so difficult to lose a “bad” habit? And precisely for all these reasons. If you must acquire a new habit, it’s just the opposite: the time of acquisition can sometimes be very long. The simple fact of having to think about it requires a lot of energy, it is often an apprenticeship, sometimes laborious, so uncomfortable! In short, every time I wish to have a new habit, it’s hard, very hard!
Here are some of the things that seemed out of my control: smoking, eating junk food, eating more than reasonable in social occasions, procrastination, anger, patience, negative thoughts.
What Will Help?
The awareness is key. It’s the beginning.
Become an observer. Start listening to your inner speech, observe what your mind is doing. Pay attention. It’s happening all the time. Meditation helps to do that. I also learned by running – by not carrying iPod on me, I run in silence and I do nothing but contemplate nature and listen to my mind.
Your mind pushes you to eat this cake (“Just a bite!”) Or smoke that cigarette or stop running or procrastinating. Listen to what your mind tells you, but do not act on these instructions. Just sit (mentally), watch and listen.
The urge to smoke, to eat, to procrastinate or to stop running … It will pass. It is temporary. Usually it only takes a minute or two. Breathe and pass.
Is it more difficult to create a positive habit (e.g., to meditate) or to stop a bad habit (e.g. quit smoking)?
It depends on the profiles and how we are going to present things. There are people who will be more sensitive to the gains (I will be able to travel, I will be able to feel better, I will have more time …) and others who will be more sensitive to the losses (I will avoid mishaps, I will not have any problem, I will not feel sick). Depending on whom you are sending the message to, it will be necessary to be alert to the sensitivity that it has to hear a message or another.
Overall, a habit is anchored in everyday life because it meets a need. To support your motivation to change, it is advisable to start with good understanding of your actual lifestyle and the stress that you experience from your social and working conditions and of the consequences for your vitality. All you need is a piece of paper and a pen or pencil. Although many people prefer to use apps nowadays, you’re likely to write less lengthy entries on your smartphone.
A smartphone app like iStressChecker is a very good option. It takes care for easy recording of your living habits and of your stress. Within a few weeks you will be clear where to set your priorities what to change. The iStresChecker also helps to monitor the effectiveness of your approach to change your habits and circumstances.
Hope this article will give you some keys to start new habits. Feel free to share me in the comments how do you, you made to anchor in your life new habits, or how you managed to get rid of the bad ones?